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A recent study showed that 25% of people who attended an Emergency Department with a life-threatening cardiac or respiratory condition – such as a heart attack or severe asthma – have symptoms of PTSD one month later. Flashbacks, nightmares, high levels of anxiety, recurrent chest pains or breathing difficulties – these are all signs of a traumatic memory of the event.

You might find yourself repeatedly visiting your doctor or the emergency department because the symptoms are so frightening and it feels like your life is in danger again. Often these symptoms are dismissed by doctors because all their tests come back negative. They offer reassurance but YOU know that something is wrong, and you don’t feel safe.

In actual fact your symptoms are real – not because you are having a heart attack again – because when you have emotional trauma the brain creates a hard-wired memory of the body state at the time of the trauma. So when you start getting anxious, your nervous system recreates all the symptoms that you had at the time of the illness. Unfortunately, doctors don’t get trained about the mechanisms of emotional trauma so the only explanation they have for symptoms is actual, physical disease. So you probably get labelled as a ‘crazy’ patient or you’re told, “It’s all in your head!”

Although the recurring symptoms can’t directly harm you like the original illness, the chronic stress response is potentially very harmful to you. When you are continually anxious or feeling panicky then your stress hormones greatly interfere with your healing and recovery from illness. Multiple scientific studies have shown that your immune system and tissue healing are seriously inhibited by chronic stress, whereas optimism and confidence accelerate healing.

Fortunately, the traumatic memory of your medical emergency can be quickly and easily erased. When the traumatic memory is deleted, then all the stress responses disappear also, so your body is left in optimal condition to heal and recover from illness.

What would it be worth to banish your fear, quickly and easily?

For just $29 I will lead you through a structured, self-healing program to delete your traumatic memory and enhance your healing.

A fear of abandonment is very common but it can have devastating effects on relationships. Often the feelings arise from childhood experiences when you felt alone or your emotional needs weren’t met. Perhaps your parents split up when you were small? Maybe your mother was in hospital for a long time and you didn’t know if she would ever come back? Some people have feelings of abandonment because they were sent away to boarding school or another institution at an early age, where they were separated from their family. Others may have lost parents at an early age, through accident or illness.

In evolutionary terms, the fear of abandonment is very primitive – it’s a threat to survival. Even small babies become distressed if they are separated from their mother. This fear of abandonment is therefore very powerful and it can magnify the emotional reaction to ordinary upsets in a relationship. Perhaps you just had an argument with your partner, who became angry. This can be enough to trigger overwhelming fears that the love you depend on will be withdrawn. So you tend to overreact in ways that are harmful to the relationship.

You might become overly submissive, always apologising for any argument or upset with your partner? This means that issues never get resolved and your partner doesn’t take responsibility for their action. You are too scared to speak up about something that bothers you.

Or else, your overreaction can be upsetting for your partner because it feels like you don’t trust them. You can start projecting your fears onto your partner so that innocent actions then start to look like evidence of abandonment or lack of love. Over a period of time, this can seriously erode a relationship.

It may be that you have had a series of relationships where the same pattern developed, resulting in your partner breaking off the relationship – thereby reinforcing your fears. In the end, it becomes so painful that you develop a phobia about commitment, and you start unconsciously sabotaging each relationship. I see this pattern often and it all stems from this inbuilt fear of abandonment.

Fortunately, the feelings of abandonment are the result of traumatic memories that can quickly and easily be erased. When the trauma is gone, then the ordinary upsets that occur in any relationship no longer become threatening because your automatic and fearful emotional reaction is gone.  You can remain calm and sort out the situation. You can make your own needs known and the relationship can be developed in a healthy and resilient way.

What would it be worth to bring ease to your relationship? What would it be worth to assert yourself confidently and have a relationship of mutual respect and love?

For just $29 I will lead you through a structured, self-healing program to delete your fear of abandonment and restore your relationship.

If you have had several failed relationship, you may also have developed beliefs about your unworthiness and not being deserving of love. After completing this program, you might like to so the program on Developing Self-Worth.

Being betrayed by someone we love is a devastating experience. Our whole world can turn upside down. Everything we took for granted can suddenly be threatened. Some people never get over it and they remain bitter and distrustful all the rest of their life.

Like the fear of abandonment, betrayal stirs up our most primitive fears. In evolutionary terms, betrayal by the ones who loves you is a life-threatening situation. When animals are expelled from the pack, they often starve and die. So the experience of betrayal sets the scene for a powerful traumatic memory, which can have lifetime consequences. One of the conditions that is especially powerful for creating emotional trauma is a situation where you cannot escape the pain or hurt – exactly what happens in betrayal.

Having once been betrayed, it is very difficult to build trust again. Betrayal creates a traumatic memory that reshapes your brain and all your perceptions, as well as your emotional reactions. These changes are hard-wired with the emotional memory.

Your fears of betrayal may greatly compromise the development of a new relationship, or rebuilding trust with a partner who has betrayed you. Because you are hypersensitive to this risk, you can easily misinterpret events as a threat to your relationship. You might become jealous of your partner’s attention to someone else, when it’s an innocent friendship. If you voice your concerns or get overly upset, your partner will start to feel you don’t trust them. Over time, this pattern of interaction can gradually poison a relationship.

None of this is your fault. The emotional reactions you get are real, and not something you can just dismiss or talk your way out of. That’s the thing about traumatic memories, they get hard-wired into the brain to create completely automatic emotional and physical responses – they become part of your operating system. No amount of reassurance from your partner can take away your subconscious fears.

You might have had a series of failed relationships where it seems that every time you were betrayed by your partner. In truth your fear of betrayal, and the terrible pain it causes, may have led you subconsciously to sabotage relationships by accusing your partners of being unfaithful. It truly is a tragic consequence of your first betrayal and, even though your actions may have ultimately destroyed the relationship, it’s ultimately not your fault.

Fortunately, the memory of betrayal can be simply and rapidly erased. This process removes the hard-wired trauma so that you don’t respond in the same fear-driven way to innocent events. You are able to build a new relationship built on mutual trust and to restore your sense of self-worth.

If you have a series of betrayals, you may need to start with the first one and then repeat the process to delete the memory of the subsequent events. However, when you delete the first traumatic memory, you will probably find that the memory of subsequent betrayals is much less painful, or has even resolved.

What would it be worth to banish your fear of betrayal, quickly and easily?

For just $29 I will lead you through a structured, self-healing program to delete the traumatic memory of your betrayal and allow you to build healthy, trusting relationships once again.

If you have had several failed relationship, you may also have developed beliefs about your unworthiness and not being deserving of love. After completing this program, you might like to so the program on Developing Self-Worth.

By their nature, injuries are sudden and unexpected. If they are disabling, then our whole life turns upside down, even if temporarily. The event may threaten our job, our ability to earn a living, our independence, or may shatter our long-held dreams. Maybe you’ve been training intensely to achieve an important life goal, then suddenly all is taken away. if you are fiercely independent, you will have to learn to rely on others. You may feel that you have become a burden. All these factors mean that you are suddenly trapped in circumstances you can’t control, one of the conditions that predisposes us to forming a traumatic memory.

The injury itself may have been physically horrifying. The sickening crunch of breaking bones, the deformity of a limb, or our flesh torn open and bleeding – all can leave a traumatic imprint that causes us anxiety and nightmares. The hospital treatment of injury may itself have been traumatising.

Being chronically anxious or fearful also greatly impairs your healing and recovery. Multiple scientific studies have shown that tissue healing is significantly slowed by stress.

Even if we recover from injury, the hard-wired traumatic memory can make us fearful or taking up activities again. Maybe you’re too fearful to ride your horse or your bike again? Perhaps a dark street now becomes threatening and unsafe? Anything that reminds you of the injury or the setting in which it occurred can be enough to trigger fears. Sometimes an injured part can develop a chronic pain syndrome, which makes our life miserable. Sometimes chronic pain gets hard-wired as part of the traumatic memory of the injury.

Fortunately, you can quickly and easily erase the traumatic memory of your injury and abolish your fears.

If you have been traumatised by a sudden injury, what would it be worth to leave it all behind and get on with life again?

For just $29 I will lead you through a structured, self-healing program to delete the traumatic memory of your injury and and set you on the road to healing.

Fear of needles is one of the commonest phobias but in many cases is easily treated. As an anesthesiologist in my hospital work, I’ve met so many patients with needle phobia and it makes their visit to the doctor, hospital or dentist a bit of a nightmare.

Traumatic memorise occur when we are threatened by an event that can cause us fear or pain, when we are already emotionally vulnerable, and when we get trapped in the situation – there is no escape. So the small child taken to the doctor to have vaccinations is already anxious and then get frightened when they see the needle. Refusal to have the injection is often met with force. If persuasion doesn’t work, then the child is restrained while the injection is done. So the sense of powerlessness and inescapability can be intense, heightening the pain of the injection.

Ironically, if you have a fear of needles, it makes some medical procedures more difficult and traumatic because the fear makes your veins shrink away. So if you need an intravenous line or blood test, it can be very hard for the nurse or phlebotomist to find a vein, leading to multiple stabs and increasing distress.

In my hospital practice, if I meet a patient with a serious needle phobia, I simply delete the traumatic memory of the original needle assault and then a fear goes away. I can often accomplish this in ten minutes, which I can fit into a busy clinical schedule and, ultimately, it saves me time. When the relaxed patient comes to the Operating Room, because the fear is gone the veins will be dilated and easy to find, so siting the iv line is quick and painless.

This online program will be especially successful for those who have a clear memory of when the needle phobia began. In some vulnerable people, a needle phobia might be a sign of a more generalised anxiety disorder, in which case one-on-one therapy is required to erase different layers of trauma. So I do NOT recommend this program is you are emotionally vulnerable and scored low on the resilience test.

If you don’t have a clear memory of when your needle phobia began, you may be successful by repeating this online program to delete the memory of several needle-phobia events that occurred more recently.

What would it be worth to abolish your phobia quickly and easily?

For just $29 I will lead you through a structured, self-healing program to delete the traumatic memory of your scary needle events and take away your fear.

One of my clients witnessed a small plane crash nose-first into a field near her home, a very violent collision. Rushing to the accident scene, she was the first to arrive and found the two pilots mangled and dead. The image haunted her. She began to have nightmares, couldn’t sleep, developed severe anxiety and depression, and her life fell apart. In her case, witnessing this scene reactivated some earlier life trauma and she needed to have several therapy sessions to clear all the trauma and restore her life.

If you have some pre-existing emotional vulnerability, witnessing an event can cause you to be traumatised. The vulnerability might arise from earlier in your life, or when you witnessed the event, you were already stressed or overwhelmed. In can be as simple as not having enough sleep, or a time when multiple stresses pile up and your capacity to cope is compromised.

Feeling helpless at the scene of an accident or trauma can add to your sense of being ‘trapped’ in the event, so the memory doesn’t go away. Maybe you feel guilty that you didn’t do more to save someone? You might find yourself second-guessing all your actions?

All these circumstances create the conditions for a traumatic memory to be hard-wired into your brain, leaving you with recurring anxiety, flashbacks, disturbed sleep and difficult in concentrating.

Fortunately, the memory of a traumatic event can be rapidly and easily erased, unburdening your painful feelings and restoring your resilience.

What would it be worth to banish your traumatic memory, quickly and easily?

For just $29 I will lead you through a structured, self-healing program to delete your trauma and set you free.

Being the victim of a serious assault, whether a physical beating or a sexual attack, is always a traumatic event. The assault threatens every aspect of your being and the trauma can live on for decades. Because the attacker overpowers you, the feeling of being trapped or helpless can be overwhelming – a major factor in the encoding of a traumatic memory.

Many victims of assault go on to develop chronic anxiety or depression. Their feelings of vulnerability make them more prone to being traumatised by other events, which wouldn’t affect someone more resilient. So the layers of trauma can build up.

Even when you have physically recovered from your wounds, it’s not just the emotional trauma that haunts you but also a body imprint of the assault. I see this in therapy with clients where we delete every aspect of the emotional trauma but then I check in to see if any body sensations remain. One client described a horrible feeling of tightness around her wrists and neck, so we did a second process to remove those traces and completely free her from her trauma.

This program not only deletes the emotional memory of the assault, it also removes the encoded body components of the trauma and helps to restore your resilience. You get your power back and you are no longer a victim.

What would it be worth to let go of the trauma of your assault and to be empowered again?

For just $29 I will lead you through a structured, self-healing program to delete your traumatic memory and set you free of your past.

A surprising number of people have accidents in water when they began to choke or get into serious difficulties. Maybe you actually came close to drowning, a terrifying event. Choking, asphyxiation, not being able to breath, or near-drowning are some of the most primitive and powerful causes of trauma. Your life is literally at risk. The encoding of this danger as a traumatic memory is a primitive survival mechanism, which can have surprising and wide-reaching effects. Sometimes, a near-drowning can reactivate a birth trauma that occurs when a new-born baby can’t immediately breathe well, or needs resuscitation. The struggle to breathe is a very primitive instinct, present from the moment of birth.

Here are some of the ways a near-drowning might affect us: One client felt very fearful when she was driving her car and big trucks drove too close to her rear window. When she had this fear, she felt as if she couldn’t breath. Questioning revealed a history of near drowning. When that traumatic event was deleted, her fear of being crowded by big trucks went away. Another client had claustrophobia, she felt very uncomfortable in enclosed spaces. Similarly, erasing her traumatic memory of a choking incident in a swimming pool cured her claustrophobia.

Otherwise, the near-drowning has more obvious effects, it might stop you enjoying swimming or other activities related to water.

If you have a clear memory of a choking or near-drowning in water, this program is for you.

What would it be worth to banish your fear, quickly and easily?

For just $29 I will lead you through a structured, self-healing program to delete your traumatic memory and set you free.

Traumatic memories can develop when we see other people injured, suffering or dying in hospital, especially when the person is a loved one. One of my clients was haunted for thirty years by the memory of seeing her husband on life support, after a terrible road accident. At that moment, her life fell apart and the memory of the trauma encoded all of her shock, fear and loss.

Another client was shocked to discover that her mother was seriously ill in hospital when she made a video call on her cell phone and saw all the tubes and monitors. Until that moment, she hadn’t known her mother was unwell. Her mother made a full recovery and then some months later suddenly collapsed and couldn’t be resuscitated. The very last memory she had of her mother was an image of her dead mother in the morgue, with all the medical tubes still in place. She was unable to grieve the loss of her mother because she was haunted by that image. When we deleted her traumatic memory, she was then able to recall all the positive memories of happy times with her mother and she was able to make her farewells and process her sad loss.

In these times of the COVID-19 pandemic, so many people are dying in hospital on ventilators, completely alone and isolated from their loved ones. Your last memory may be a photograph or video of your critically ill loved one in ICU and this image can haunt you. Your intense fear, exhaustion and helplessness are all powerful factors that cause a traumatic memory to be hard-wired into your brain, compounding your grief and loss.

This program releases you from the burden of traumatic memories associated with your loved one’s illness and medical treatment.

For just $29 I will lead you through a structured, self-healing program to delete your traumatic memory and help you to celebrate the life of your loved one.

Surveys show that bullying is rife in many workplaces and if you are the target for a bully at your work, or your boss is overly aggressive, then life can be hell. I’ve met clients who had to quit a job because of bullying. So often, the leaders of an organisation are unwilling to acknowledge the problem, or to take effective action against the aggressors. Worse still, they may blame the victim for being over-sensitive.

Bullies have unerring skill in choosing their victims: they sense your vulnerability. Almost certainly you had experience of being bullied at school and that causes traumatic memories to be hard-wired in your brain so that you become forever emotionally sensitive to people who are loud, aggressive or bullying. None of this is your fault, even though people may judge you for being weak or for over-reacting.

When you have been bullied, you lose your sense of power and can easily feel trapped in situations. The only way out may be to quit a job but that makes you even more of a victim. This is a grave injustice and represents a failure of leadership from your bosses. The best organisations create a safe and healthy work environment for everyone and it’s the bullies who face consequences, not their victims.

Fortunately, if you erase the traumatic memory of school-time bullying, you can replace your vulnerability with a sense of empowerment and face up to your bullies. Most bullies are cowards and they hide their fears by mocking you or being aggressive. When you are empowered to stand up to bullies, they suddenly feel scared and will quickly back off – while your workmates cheer!

What would it be worth to take back your power?

For just $29 I will lead you through a structured, self-healing program to delete your traumatic memories of bully and empower you to be confident and assertive.

Shame is a feeling that can make us feel crushed and unworthy. Shame is distinguished from guilt because of the implications. When we feel guilty, we know we have done something wrong but the feeling is attached to the action, not our identity. When we feel shame, it’s much worse because  we are making  judgment about ourself – we are what is wrong, not just our action. We have an overwhelming consciousness of something dishonourable, improper, or ridiculous, done by oneself or another. We can feel shame even when we are an innocent victim.  For instance, almost all those who have been sexually abused feel intense shame.

When we are filled with shame, we just want to hide. We lose our voice. We feel like an outcast, excluded from life. Shame is a very painful and disabling feeling.

When we carry a lot of shame related to past events, it’s almost always encoded as part of a traumatic memory. The thing about traumatic memories is that the brain doesn’t know they are in the past, the emotions and body feelings flood us as if the event is happening all over again. So the feelings of shame we have in the present time are really just a hangover from past events and not an accurate measure of our true self-worth in the present. None-the-less, the feelings are real and you can’t talk your way out of them because they have been hard-wired as part of your operating system.

Fortunately, experience shows that when the traumatic memory of past shameful events are erased, your shame diminishes very rapidly and you can develop a new sense of self-worth. To be relieved from shame is a great blessing.

What would it be worth to restore your sense of innocence and self-worth?

For just $29 I will lead you through a structured, self-healing program to delete your memories of shameful events and help restore your self-worth.

Fear of flying is a very common phobia. Indeed if you suffer this condition you are in company with Jennifer Aniston, Ben Affleck, Kirsten Dunst and Colin Farrell, who have all admitted to a fear of flying, according to FlyFright.com.

White knuckles, death grip on the arm rest, butterflies in the stomach, nausea, panicky breathing, a feeling of being trapped, visions of falling and crashing – fear of flying can be anything from nervousness to full-blown panic attack. It can make long flights a nightmare, or actually impossible. Being told how safe air travel is, makes no difference to your fear. That’s because the fear response is hard-wired into your brain as part of a traumatic memory.

Some people have a fear of flying as part of a more generalised anxiety disorder and one-on-one therapy is required to address the different layers of trauma. But if you are otherwise fairly resilient and have a specific fear of flying, this program is for you.

Traumatic memories get encoded (hard-wired) in the brain under certain conditions. An event occurs that is potentially threatening to you, at a time when you are already emotionally vulnerable, and which has an element of inescapability, a feeling of being trapped. So most people who develop a fear of flying can recall the time it started, the one flight where the elements came together to create anxiety or panic. Long distance travel is often associated with stress, a turning point in life. It also includes severe fatigue and loss of sleep, a potent cause of emotional vulnerability. Maybe you are having to care for family members on the journey, so there is added stress and responsibility. Everyone is tired and stressed.

When you add the severe confinement of an aircraft cabin and the cramped seats, and the impossibility of escape, the conditions are ripe for creating a trauma. The traumatic memory of severe anxiety or a panic attack on an aircraft include all the clues about context, plus all of your emotional and body reactions. So once you have suffered this reaction, it’s very easy to get triggered again. Even the sight of an airport, the crush of the check-in queues, your confinement in the secure boarding area, all these a cues that subconsciously trigger your fear. When you have to enter the cabin, it can feel as if you can’t breathe. You feel trapped and doomed.

Fortunately, a fear of flying can often be rapidly treated by deleting the traumatic memory of the first event. If you have a clear memory of the first time you had a panic on an aircraft, this program is for you. When the traumatic memory is deleted, the links between the subconscious triggers and the emotional and physical response are broken. So you can approach an airport, or enter an aircraft without the feelings of panic.

What would it be worth to banish your fear, quickly and easily?

For just $29 I will lead you through a structured, self-healing program to delete your traumatic memory and set you free.

Among the clients in my clinic, a lack of self-worth is almost universal. When bad things happen to us, we often blame ourselves. When we are betrayed or abandoned by our friends or those who love us, we begin to believe that we are not worthy of their love. In a society that values getting ahead and personal accomplishment, so often we are praised for what we do rather than who we are. So we find ourselves continually striving to prove our worth but no accomplishment is ever enough.

Often a low sense of worth starts in early childhood. The first three years of life are where we form our deepest beliefs about ourselves and our relationship to the world. Those who have a loving, supportive and secure upbringing develop healthy emotional attachments and know that they are intrinsically good and worthy. The greater numbers who are on the receiving end of ‘instrumental parenting’ win approval by following the rules and receiving praise for their achievements in school or on the sports ground. Often our expression of emotion is suppressed when we are told to be ‘a brave boy or girl’, or told ‘don’t cry’, or told ‘don’t make a fuss’. Our feeling are invalidated, and with it our intrinsic sense of self-worth. The ‘love’ we receive is conditional on being a ‘good’ boy or girl.

Only about one quarter of children grow up with the same two parents throughout their childhood. So many marriages and relationships break up that the children endure a forced separation from one or more parent, which also increases our vulnerability and self doubt. Sometime small children actually blame themselves for their parent’s breakup, feeling that they are somehow responsible.

In the Western world, we have a culture that tends to be highly self-critical and pessimistic and at the same time, we are continually bombarded by advertising and a celebrity culture that make us anxious about not being beautiful enough, or owning the things that should make us happy. Even though you may be superficially happy, the prevailing belief is one of failing to be good enough. No matter how many affirmations you make to ourself in the mirror, the deeper part of you knows the truth: you are unworthy.

Having low self-worth compromises all of your relationships. Often you choose partners who treat us badly – because that’s all you deserve. You can begin to project your low sense of self worth onto the motives of others, changing innocent actions into ones that seem hurtful. You can begin to sabotage your relationships. You can over-react to criticism and so don’t hear things that might actually help you to be a better partner, or more skilful or a better performer. You limit our ambitions because ultimately you feel you don’t deserve the good things in life. Low self-worth negatively impacts you in so many ways.

But the truth is, we are all born completely innocent, with a perfect soul and a deep sense of connection to a meaningful world. All of the factors that dent our self-worth are learned beliefs and thought patterns, which can be changed. In my clinic I see the natural emergence of the best versions of people. As they leave their trauma behind, their intrinsic sense of self-worth starts to strengthen. What we need to complete the process is to put the brain into subconscious learning mode and gradually shift away the resistance to healthy beliefs.

The program uses Havening Techniques to create high levels of delta waves in the brain. Ordinarily, as adults, we don’t have high levels of Delta Waves except during deep sleep, also known as ‘slow wave’ sleep. We know that deep sleep is essential for learning new knowledge. What we also know is that babies and small children predominantly have Delta Waves in their brain in early life, and the frequency of brain waves shifts higher as we get older. So the Delta Wave state is one in which we create our core beliefs about who we are and our relationship to the world. Using Havening Techniques we can then use a process to quickly shift core beliefs, overcome subconscious resistance, and strengthen our sense of self-worth.

What would it be worth to have a secure sense of self-worth? How powerfully could it improve your relationships?

For just $29 I will lead you through a structured, self-healing program to change your core beliefs and develop a healthy sense of self-worth.

This program may be a valuable follow-up to the other programs that delete traumatic memories.